being single is fun after all :p
THE GIFT OF BEING SINGLE
Too often people want what they want, or think they want at the
moment, which is usually "happiness"right now. The irony of their
impatience is that only by learning to wait, and by willingness to
accept the bad with the good do we usually attain
those things that are truly worthwhile. I have a blessing which is
sometimes seen as a curse. I am blessed with the gift of being single.
For most of us twenty something young professionals, or simply single
people it seems the world has already come up with its own set of
expectations on how we should live life. The world expects us to
finish school in our early twenties, get a job, and find the love of
our lives by the time we reach our mid-twenties, marry and have kids.
But the thing is, not everyone sees their dreams come true in the
same way. In this article, I shall try to endeavour to change the way
the world looks at being single.
The Art of Contentment .
For most of us, being single it will be more of a phase than a final
destination.
This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday,
I'm sure
most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love
will always be tested. Someone more handsome/beautiful, more
charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not
practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you
would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one.
Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you
take what life gives you, good or bad, you're willing to see it
through. It means you don't walk away every time
things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance,
understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry
will never have.
Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus,
allowing you to cherish every moment you pend with your chosen one.
The art of contentment means you wouldn't mind if life had to make
you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know
that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.
A Time to Know Yourself Better.
Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself
better. You can pursue different interests and passions without
having to ask another person's approval. It is a phase when you can
keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and
see yourself become more than what you expect to be. Allow yourself
to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out
why you're still romantically unattached. It's all in the mind.
Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do
charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one
moment, was alone.
Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other
people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you
are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when
you don't know who and what you really are?
A Choice between Good and Best.
Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad
and
absolutely good. Sometimes, it's between good and best. Treat this
stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who
is best for you.
Sometimes, you won't hear music, or feel magic to know who's best for
you. The heart just knows and it doesn't need any romantically
charged scenario to decide on the matter.
Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to,
not to the perfect partner,
but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of
life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our
hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.
Almost a Non-committal.
Jane Austen once wrote, that
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single
man (or in our times a woman), in possession of a
good fortune is in search of a spouse (just to be politically
correct).
Well, that was what the old school wanted us to believe in.
Married life is a path most of us would take; however, it is not the
only path there is.
Relieve yourself of the pressure and stop making every single,
straight guy friend a prospect.
You have no business "entrapping" them and asking (which is more
like "putting a gun in the head"
them of their exclusive attention,
if you're not ready for commitment yourself. Sometimes, when you
spend too much time trying to find a boyfriend, you
normally end up marrying the first loser who comes to your door.
Take your time, the world will wait. Being married doesn't guarantee
that it will make your life happy. It doesn't guarantee anything at
all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people
together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the
right intention, the emotional maturity financial security and of
course, unwavering love, you're better off
unattached.
Living Life.
Don't put your life on hold for Mr/Ms.Right but don't let it waste
away with Mr./Ms Wrong.
Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. It's not
about the things that
could have happened but never did, or things that you think would
happen in the future. Live life now.
Live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be
perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow life to surprise you with its
most wonderful blessings.
Too often people want what they want, or think they want at the
moment, which is usually "happiness"right now. The irony of their
impatience is that only by learning to wait, and by willingness to
accept the bad with the good do we usually attain
those things that are truly worthwhile. I have a blessing which is
sometimes seen as a curse. I am blessed with the gift of being single.
For most of us twenty something young professionals, or simply single
people it seems the world has already come up with its own set of
expectations on how we should live life. The world expects us to
finish school in our early twenties, get a job, and find the love of
our lives by the time we reach our mid-twenties, marry and have kids.
But the thing is, not everyone sees their dreams come true in the
same way. In this article, I shall try to endeavour to change the way
the world looks at being single.
The Art of Contentment .
For most of us, being single it will be more of a phase than a final
destination.
This is the best place to practice the art of contentment. Someday,
I'm sure
most of us will fall in love and get married. But the thing is, love
will always be tested. Someone more handsome/beautiful, more
charming, richer, funnier, sweeter would come along. If you have not
practiced the art of contentment as a single person, chances are you
would be tempted to want that and not cherish your chosen one.
Practicing the Art of Contentment as a single person means that you
take what life gives you, good or bad, you're willing to see it
through. It means you don't walk away every time
things get tough because it builds in you patience, perseverance,
understanding and a hundred different virtues that people in a hurry
will never have.
Being single means you would find how it feels to be alone thus,
allowing you to cherish every moment you pend with your chosen one.
The art of contentment means you wouldn't mind if life had to make
you wait for so long to find the love of your life, because you know
that the waiting would only make the finding much sweeter.
A Time to Know Yourself Better.
Being single is a time of your life when you can get to know yourself
better. You can pursue different interests and passions without
having to ask another person's approval. It is a phase when you can
keep focus on other things, discover your potentials and talents, and
see yourself become more than what you expect to be. Allow yourself
to surprise you. Stop wasting precious energy trying to figure out
why you're still romantically unattached. It's all in the mind.
Take the time to go see your friends, spend time with your family, do
charity work and you will realize that you are not, and never for one
moment, was alone.
Try to get to know yourself first before you try to get to know other
people. To be truly loved means to be known and accepted for who you
are. How do you expect other people to know you and to love you, when
you don't know who and what you really are?
A Choice between Good and Best.
Sometimes the dilemmas we face are not between what is absolutely bad
and
absolutely good. Sometimes, it's between good and best. Treat this
stage of your life as a phase to evaluate who is good for you and who
is best for you.
Sometimes, you won't hear music, or feel magic to know who's best for
you. The heart just knows and it doesn't need any romantically
charged scenario to decide on the matter.
Trust in your heart, and trust that time will eventually lead you to,
not to the perfect partner,
but to the most suitable partner for you. Being single is a phase of
life that we need to be thankful for, because being single means our
hearts have yet to choose the best one for us.
Almost a Non-committal.
Jane Austen once wrote, that
It is a truth universally acknowledged that a single
man (or in our times a woman), in possession of a
good fortune is in search of a spouse (just to be politically
correct).
Well, that was what the old school wanted us to believe in.
Married life is a path most of us would take; however, it is not the
only path there is.
Relieve yourself of the pressure and stop making every single,
straight guy friend a prospect.
You have no business "entrapping" them and asking (which is more
like "putting a gun in the head"
them of their exclusive attention, if you're not ready for commitment yourself. Sometimes, when you
spend too much time trying to find a boyfriend, you
normally end up marrying the first loser who comes to your door.
Take your time, the world will wait. Being married doesn't guarantee
that it will make your life happy. It doesn't guarantee anything at
all. Sometimes, it only brings two miserable people
together only to make their life even more miserable. Without the
right intention, the emotional maturity financial security and of
course, unwavering love, you're better off
unattached.
Living Life.
Don't put your life on hold for Mr/Ms.Right but don't let it waste
away with Mr./Ms Wrong.
Life is about things that you do and happen to you everyday. It's not
about the things that
could have happened but never did, or things that you think would
happen in the future. Live life now.
Live it to the fullest and stop beating yourself up, trying to be
perfect on a Saturday night date. Allow life to surprise you with its
most wonderful blessings.
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